Chloe will begin preschool this year. We took her last night to meet her teacher and see her classroom. She has been so excited! She didn't seem afraid at all as she explored the room and played with her teacher. She is very different than Evan was as he began preschool (she is also a year older and of course we haven't actually left her there yet:). I am so excited for her as well! I know she is ready to make friends and to learn and grow at school. And so as I watched her, I was happy for her.
When we got back in the car she said, "Granddaddy will not believe I am big enough to go to school!" and she had the most excited little smile ever. She was giddy with excitement. And I was happy for her.
But, somewhere deep inside buried under the smiles and the excitement is just the slightest little bit of sadness. Sadness because as excited as I am for Chloe for this "first" in her life, I also have to acknowledge that this is a "last" in my life. The last time my child starts preschool for the first time. I swear these firsts and lasts come and go so
quickly! This is one reason I want more children. I'm not ready for the
lasts yet. Those lasts hurt somewhere deep inside. And I'm not sure that hurt ever goes away.
With your first it's a different kind of hurt. It's the "My baby is all grown up. How did that happen so fast? How can I slow down time? I miss my little baby!" hurt. That hurt passes. It changes into nostalgia. It does not create an empty place (as long as there is another little baby at home), it just creates those fond memories that you think of with a little slightly, sad smile.
But, with your last it's different. Yes, you can't believe she is all grown up either but also you expected it because now you know how fast it goes. With your last, it's a realization that a time in your life has passed. A time that was looked forward to for the first 26 years of my life with great anticipation is gone so quickly in a mere 6.
My
last is beginning preschool. My
last is a baby no longer. I no longer have babies. The baby part of my life is gone. And that is a different kind of hurt altogether. I mean, sure, I look back on those memories so fondly. It's not as if I'm overcome with sadness. I smile and laugh and treasure every second of this new stage in my life. It's a wonderful stage. But, still, there is the little bit of sadness. Buried deep down inside. The little bit that leaves a little empty space there. Because there is not another baby at home to bring to her
first day preschool.
And so even as I celebrate with whole-hearted excitement my little girl's
first, I also must face the tiny bit of buried deep down sadness that comes with my
last. In fact, from here on out every first for her will be a last for me. It's a good thing we didn't decide that she would be our
last for absolute certain until recently or I would have been a wreck when she was a baby and going through all of her firsts. It was better to tell myself she only
might be my last. So, I
might have another first step, first word, first Christmas. It is harder when you decide for sure that she will be your
last.
Lord, help me when my
last has her
first day of kindergarten!